There are so many GREAT resources nowadays! I keep updating this list to equip and help you. If you don’t find what you need here, please reach out. I have so many resources I love to share. 

PREVENTION:

Diapers to Dating, Raising Sexually Healthy Children, Dr. Debra Haffner

The Right Touch, A Read-Aloud Story to Help Prevent Child Sexual Abuse, Sandy Kleven (put this in the school library)

I Said NO! A Kid-to-Kid Guide to Keeping Private Parts Private, Zack & Kimberly King

Good Pictures, Bad Pictures. Excellent books to read with children in preparation for WHEN they will see ‘bad pictures’. I recommend both the junior and second editions. 

The New Speaking of Sex, What Your Children Need to Know and When They Need to Know It. Meg Hickling R.N. A straightforward medical approach on what kids need to know at what age. It will make many of us cringe, but isn’t that because our parents failed to have these needed conversations with us?

PARENTING RESOURCES:

Parents Program by Culture Reframed, take this self-paced free online course to learn how to fight for your kids in this toxic pornified culture. They have one for tweens & teens.

App Review by Protect Young Eyes. Before you let your kids get a new app on their phone, read these reviews by a Dad and tech guru. 

Brain Defense Digital Safety Course for kids 7 – 11 by Defend Young Minds

Understanding Routers. Learn how to put parent control on your router!

5 Habits of a Tech-Ready Home by Protect Young Eyes

WHAT IS THE BEST PARENT CONTROL APP? Here is a really helpful video review from Family Tech. She reviews Bark, Boomerang, OurPact, and more! Family Tech YouTube page also offers lots of helpful videos! I used it to set up Family Sharing.

CANOPY – internet filtering “Canopy is the only app that blocks and filters explicit content in real-time with powerful AI- so you can stay protected, focused, and in control. Use it solo or with an accountability partner to build better habits for good.” The app reviews are not great, talk to someone who uses it.

EERO – “The world’s first home WiFi system, eero blankets your home in fast, reliable WiFi. eero stays new and gets better with frequent software updates, improving performance, while also bringing new features and security improvements. It’s simple to set up and easy to manage. With a network that expands as far as you need, you’ll finally be able to stream, work, and play, from every corner of your home — and from the backyard, too.” My friends use this, they say it helps them monitor children’s devices.

GOOGLE FAMILY LINK – Family Link provides tools that respect families’ individual choices with technology, helping them create healthy, positive digital habits. With easy‑to‑use tools, you can understand how your child is spending time on their device, share location, manage privacy settings, and find the right balance for your family.*

Let kids be kids longer. Join the resistance movement: WAIT UNTIL 8TH. No smartphones are allowed until at least grade 8, but most experts say 16! Start with a flip phone! We are doing the 18@18 Challenge! If our daughter doesn’t put social media on her phone until 18, we will give her $1,800 on her 18th Bday! So far so good! She’s 17 and a very cool, confident, active teen! She has IG on my phone so she can check it when she wants. She often forgets about it! She does not have SnapChat and she has lots of great friends! It can be done parents!!  

WHAT DO WE USE? Well, none of these to be honest. Here’s why. Our 17 year old has her own iPhone however, it doesn’t have any harmful apps on it! No social media. That’s a game changer you guys! When she’s on her phone, I’m not overly worried! I know she watched lots of sports and Pinterest. There is porn on Pinterest too. I do watch how much fashion/fitness/beauty content she’s on but it’s not as toxic as IG or SC. Our 13-year-old does not have his own device or access to any internet connective device if we are not home. We do NOT have a smart TV, we do NOT have any gaming console. He does not own an iPad, tablet or phone. So that’s where we get A LOT OF PROTECTION. Will this change as he gets older, and we will adapt accordingly but as soon as you give your kids access to the internet or you give them their own device you have to be ON TOP OF ALL THE FILTERS!!! It’s exhausting and it’s a losing battle. Delay, limit, and build a low-tech home. That is your best approach.

Some of you have asked what our rules are so here you go. Adapt, copy, and adjust as you see fit! 

CLICK HERE for our house screen rules. 

How to set up parent controls on every digital device, by Protect Young Eyes.

Social Media and Mobile Phone Contract by Culture Reframed.

Is My Child Ready for a Smartphone? 4 minute read by Wired Human *** the first phone should NEVER BE A SMARTPHONE!!!!! Start with flip or Pinwheel!

Book The Glass Between Us. Review on Amazon “Families will remember the day they got this book as a turning point and the start of a new sense of safety through responsible use of technology.”

I recommend ALL the books & interviews with Dr. Leonard Sax (pic below). This medical doctor and psychiatrist has been tracking social changes in boys and girls for the past 30 years! His insight and research findings are a MUST-READ for all parents and educators! I had to own all four books immediately, and I’m highlighting like a mad woman! It changed my parenting style right away, especially for my son. Please buy these, gift them to new parents, every educator must read these before they go in the classroom (especially the gender one, it’s not about what you think!)

Boys Adrift The Five Factors Driving the Growing Epidemic of Unmotivated Boys and Underachieving Young Men

Girls on the Edge The Four Factors Driving the New Crisis for Girls

Why Gender Matters What Parents and Teachers Need to Know about the Emerging Science of Sex Differences

The Collapse of Parenting How We Hurt Our Children When We Treat Them Like Grown-Ups

https://www.commonsensemedia.org/ good resource for parents and educators. Gives good reviews of games, books, movies, etc. 

https://www.pluggedin.com/ faith based reviews of modern media, music, video games, books, etc. 

The Anxious Generation: How the Great Rewiring of Childhood is Causing an Epidemic of Mental Illness, Jonathan Haidt. 

Dr. Haidt’s Under 5 Screen Recommendations:

1. Under 18 months limit screen use to video chatting along with an adult (ie. with a parent/grandparent who is out of town
2. 18 – 24 mo, limit screen time to watching educational programming with a caregiver 
3. 2 – 5 yrs, limit noneducational screen time to 1 hr/weekday and 3 hrs/weekend day (I personally find this too high!) 
4. Screens off at meals and outings
5. Use parent controls
6. Avoid using screens as pacifiers or as babysitters to stop tantrums. 
7. Turn off screens 1 hour before bedtime
8. (from me) never in bedrooms or private places, no earplugs or headphones  

DOCUMENTARIES: 

MAGIC LANTERN PICTURES: has made a couple of hard to watch but essential to watch documentaries, I’d recommend. Raised on Porn and what the porn culture is creating in their next documentary Liberated, The New Sexual Revolution. These are upsetting to watch but helpful to know this is what we are fighting against. Not for kids! 

BRAIN, HEART, WORLD by Fight the New Drug. Very well done, 3 part documentaries following the journey of people struggling with porn. 

Colin Kartchner, TED Talk

PODCAST RECOMMENDATIONS: 

Save the Kids – Understanding screen-related challenges.

Gail Dines (this is the global expert! Any of her interviews are highly informative. Especially after watching Liberated by Magic Lanterns listen to this commentary of the film and hook-up culture) 

How to Detox Your Kids 

The US Surgeon General’s Dire Social Media Warning 

Scrolling to Death – Educational interviews on screen related harms 

Consider Before Consuming – Educational interviews on the harms of porn. 

The Place We Find Ourselves– Powerful information on healing and trauma.

Hey right now, it often feels like these are our kids in the middle by themselves! 🙁 If you could decrease your child’s screen time there would be more kids in the middle, playing, laughing, learning people and social skills, getting healthy and active, decreasing addictive behaviour, allowing their brains and bodies to grow and develop! Let’s fight together to raise FUN ACTIVE PASSIONATE kids that will become healthy and engaged adults and parents! 

UNDERSTANDING PORN/ HELP QUITTING/ HELPING KIDS WHO HAVE BEEN EXPOSED:

Great articles and resources on the brain science behind porn, among other topics: Fight the New Drug

The Sex Talk You Never Got, Sam Jolman (good healing book for parents, especially Dads) 

UNWANTED, How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing, Jay Stringer

THIS BOOK IS REVOLUTIONARY!!!! Go listen to every podcast you can find with Dr. Jay Stringer and get this book. This is such a refreshing hopeful take on recovery and unwanted sexual behaviour!  “Unwanted sexual behaviors are a roadmap to healing, not a life sentence to sexual shame or addiction. Unwanted sexual behaviors like the use of porn, extra-marital affairs and hook-ups are not random. Porn searches and sexual fantasies can be both shaped and predicted based on your life story.”  Dr. Stringer

Take the assessment to discover your path to freedom. SELF ASSESSMENT!

https://puredesire.org/ Take Back Your Life! 

https://www.covenanteyes.com/  Well established accountability program, good help for parents and those trying to quit. 

 https://everaccountable.com/ scientifically backed accountability software. 

https://www.joinfortify.com/ Science-based support for lasting healing from sexual compulsivity.

Quit porn for good: https://www.sathiyasam.com/. Author of the Last Relapse. 

Christian program to help you quit https://thefreedomfight.org/about/our-approach/

Coach Frank Rich – Discover The 7 Steps To Quitting Porn For Good & Living The Life You Were Created To Live  https://www.youtube.com/@CoachFrankRich/featured 

Reboot Nation – a community of people who have discovered the negative effects of pornography. “If you or a loved one struggle with porn addiction and/or porn-induced sexual dysfunctions, we would love to welcome you to our community.”

LEARN ABOUT ABOUT PORN & SEXUAL VIOLENCE 

Book How Pornography Harms by Dr. John D. Foubert

Dr. John Foubert, Protecting Children from Internet Pornography, great book, I highly recommend. Written by a Christian author, researcher and advocate. 

For all the hockey parents! Skating on Thin Ice – Professional Hockey, Rape Culture & Violence Against Women by Dr. Walter Dekeseredy, Stu Cowan & Martin D. Schwartz 

Pornland. Dr Gail Dines. This is a HARD read! But if you want to know the truth about the porn industry Dr. Dines is the leading authority and researcher on this topic. 

GOVERNMENT ADVOCACY: 

In Canada:

https://defenddignity.ca/get-involved/#advocacy 

Stand with survivors & advocates by supporting policies that reduce sexual exploitation. Ask your MP to support Bill S210. Bill S-210 requires sites to verify that users are adults before accessing pornographic content. Right now any child/toddler can access hardcore, body punishing porn within 2 clicks on ANY CONNECTED device! We owe it to our kids to change this immediately. You can also easily email your MP here within 2 clicks! 

In the USA: 

The National Centre on Sexual Exploitation 

Exodus Cry

VIDEO GAMES: 

Dr. Leonard Sax’s advice on VG:

• No VG school nights.
• Schedule & timers, weekends 45 min – 1 hour/day.
• Headset off, you have to know the language your child is being exposed to.
• Never in the bedroom, basement, behind closed doors.
• He recommends rule-enforcing games over rule-breaking, which teaches disrespect.
• Be warned, VG are designed to be highly addictive. Nothing can compete -except porn.
• VG are full of very sexualized images. Some have direct links to porn sites. Games like Roblox and Minecraft have rooms gamers have created that show strip clubs, rape, and sexual content.
• If games start to replace real life and the desire to be with real people, this is a sign that gaming is becoming problematic.
• Check chats. Know passwords. Are you children allowed to game with strangers? Do you know who they are? PREDATORS PREY WHERE CHILDREN PLAY.
• Read reviews on Common Sense Media or Protect Young Eyes.
• Play it together. Are you comfortable with the language? content? sexual images?

https://gamequitters.com for parents and gamers.

Boys Adrift – 5 Factors Driving the Growing Epidemic of Unmotivated Boys and Underachieving Young Men, by Leonard Sax, MD. PhD. 

This is Your Kid’s Brain on Video Games, Save the Kids Podcast. 

Ally Global Foundation and Exploitation Education Institute. https://www.thepreventionproject.ca/library

Free porn critical sex education curriculum Culture Reframed.

Value Driven Curriculum for Healthy & Safe Screen Use. Wired Human. 

How to Talk to Your School District About Removing Cell Phones, Protect Young Eyes.

5 Tech Questions to Ask Every Principal, Protect Young Eyes

The Case for Removing Cell Phones Off School Buses, Protect Young Eyes